Are we a victim of the "Fantasy" syndrome??
The "fantasy" syndrome is what I call that glow you have on your face when you meet someone new and exciting. I mean you are telling all of your family, friends, the girl at the 7/11, the mailman that is trying to deliver your mail, basically anyone that will listen to you talk about them. You cannot get them off of your mind...the conversation is great, you just laugh..even though the damn joke was not funny and in your mind you are really thinking "his/her azz is corny as hell. Each time you think of them you just light up. Your smile is so big it can light up the Empire State building. Every thing about the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE (LMAO) does is perfect. They cannot do no wrong. They are the perfect somebody that is about to ROCK your world (in a good or a bad way).
No matter if you have to pay for everything. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter if you have to constantly wait by the phone to hear from them. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how they talk down to you or try to change you. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how you have to initiate each date. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how date night is always at 12am at YOUR house. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how you do not have the home number or the MAIN cell number and you can only call during certain times. "So, I'm on cloud 99". What I am saying is that during these times of the "fantasy" syndrome..........
We overlook things that we know damn well is not going to work once the "fantasy" syndrome is over. It normally does not take long for us to get over the "fantasy" syndrome. Due to the fact, I really feel like when many people initially meet they are meeting under false pretense and giving each other a fake sense of reality. For example, I remember when I asked someone "are you a jealous person??" ...and their response was "NO"...you know the whole I am not crazy or would never go into a jealous rage, stalk your phone, your job, your house, cut your tires, put suga in your tank speech....Don't act like you have never heard that speech...LMAO (hell, I have sometimes given it....LMAO) Well, as time moves on ...you realize while you are in this "fantasy" syndrome..the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE (LMAO) has issues with jealousy. But, because we are in "fantasy" mode-we think it is cute or they must really like/love me(slightly tilting my head to the left and batting my eyes with a smirk on my face). Uummmmmmmmm.....OKAY!
I cannot tell you how many times I have fallen for the whole fantasy syndrome. I will be the first to step up and say that in the beginning it is hard to decipher what is real and what is just "fantasy". I know I have been in a position where I have just needed to fill the void of loneliness. So, I have a tendency to just settle for what that person is giving me to remain in the "fantasy". I know many people would say....YOU SHOULD NOT SETTLE! Well, hell during those times when that fake sense of reality comes along after you have spent endless nights alone at the dinner table and in the bed (where you have explored each part of your body due to boredom and going crazy needing to be touched)....YOU SETTLE FOR THAT FAKE SENSE OF REALITY.
OKAY! OKAY! OKAY!......I will talk about the BIG ELEPHANT in the room. IT IS HARD TO WALK AWAY FROM THE FANTASY AND SOMETIMES WE DO BECOME VICTIM'S OF THE "FANTASY" SYNDROME! I feel like it is hard to walk away due to fear of being alone. You know as we get older and we are not in a loving relationship or the tramp couple next to you on the train is kissing...you begin to take and accept whatever comes your way. To me it is different than the person that "HAS or NEED" to be with someone. I am speaking more so of the joy and not the need of sharing your life with someone else.
A way not to become a victim of the "fantasy" syndrome is to realize and accept the good and the bad from the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE (LMAO) in the BEGINNING and make a conscience decision if the who and where they are in the world work for the good of YOU and where you are in YOUR life.
No matter if you have to pay for everything. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter if you have to constantly wait by the phone to hear from them. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how they talk down to you or try to change you. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how you have to initiate each date. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how date night is always at 12am at YOUR house. "So, I'm on cloud 99". No matter how you do not have the home number or the MAIN cell number and you can only call during certain times. "So, I'm on cloud 99". What I am saying is that during these times of the "fantasy" syndrome..........
We overlook things that we know damn well is not going to work once the "fantasy" syndrome is over. It normally does not take long for us to get over the "fantasy" syndrome. Due to the fact, I really feel like when many people initially meet they are meeting under false pretense and giving each other a fake sense of reality. For example, I remember when I asked someone "are you a jealous person??" ...and their response was "NO"...you know the whole I am not crazy or would never go into a jealous rage, stalk your phone, your job, your house, cut your tires, put suga in your tank speech....Don't act like you have never heard that speech...LMAO (hell, I have sometimes given it....LMAO) Well, as time moves on ...you realize while you are in this "fantasy" syndrome..the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE (LMAO) has issues with jealousy. But, because we are in "fantasy" mode-we think it is cute or they must really like/love me(slightly tilting my head to the left and batting my eyes with a smirk on my face). Uummmmmmmmm.....OKAY!
I cannot tell you how many times I have fallen for the whole fantasy syndrome. I will be the first to step up and say that in the beginning it is hard to decipher what is real and what is just "fantasy". I know I have been in a position where I have just needed to fill the void of loneliness. So, I have a tendency to just settle for what that person is giving me to remain in the "fantasy". I know many people would say....YOU SHOULD NOT SETTLE! Well, hell during those times when that fake sense of reality comes along after you have spent endless nights alone at the dinner table and in the bed (where you have explored each part of your body due to boredom and going crazy needing to be touched)....YOU SETTLE FOR THAT FAKE SENSE OF REALITY.
OKAY! OKAY! OKAY!......I will talk about the BIG ELEPHANT in the room. IT IS HARD TO WALK AWAY FROM THE FANTASY AND SOMETIMES WE DO BECOME VICTIM'S OF THE "FANTASY" SYNDROME! I feel like it is hard to walk away due to fear of being alone. You know as we get older and we are not in a loving relationship or the tramp couple next to you on the train is kissing...you begin to take and accept whatever comes your way. To me it is different than the person that "HAS or NEED" to be with someone. I am speaking more so of the joy and not the need of sharing your life with someone else.
A way not to become a victim of the "fantasy" syndrome is to realize and accept the good and the bad from the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE (LMAO) in the BEGINNING and make a conscience decision if the who and where they are in the world work for the good of YOU and where you are in YOUR life.
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posted by Kellwin at
7:57 AM
1 Comments:
I would like to call mine The "Cinderella Syndrome".
He came along took me away from the struggle of life and moved me into his castle, but when the clock struck midnite, he failed to mention he was married, or as he called it "separated". (Geeesh)
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