"GIVE what is GIVEN"....
You know so many times we sit and wonder why certain people do certain things. We ask ourselves why do they treat me this way when I give so much and they give so little. You know the whole "he/she complete me" statement. I totally disagree with that statement. And, the reason I do is because..
Are we only 50% when you got into a committed relationship with him/her? So, when they leave or you are not getting what you need in the relationship that will make you 100%.... you slide back down like a stripper on a pole to 50%.
We need to wake up and get ourselves together in order for us to start out at 100% (but, we will cover that in a future post). I suggest when we find ourselves in these type of relationships it is due to the fact that we are not giving what is given. Listed below you will find an examples (yes, I have more...) of what that means:
You leave a message for your significant other to return a call back to you at 3pm and when you hear from them it is 3pm the next day. Ummmmmm....NO! But, what we would do is beat that phone up(because we are only at 50%) knowing in this day in time....you have caller id even when you don't want it. Trust me when I say...they saw either when you called and hit ignore to send your 50% self to voicemail or that missed call. But, it is easier for us to beat that phone up than to just sit and give what is given.
There is another virtue called PATIENCE. Leave your message and find you something to do that does not allow you to constantly check your phone or stalk them via Verizon, Sprint, or AT&T. They will eventually call and you should push aside that 15% of yourself that you have left because by this time you are PISSED and learn how to use their actions to your advantage because they will be calling you in the future and leave a message (even if you have to hit the ignore button).
After the love of your life(LMAO), leave that message you do exactly what they did. You wait 24hrs and call them back just as chipper and happy avoiding the fact you got their message 24hrs ago, you saw all the calls. I guarantee it will spark....."YOU DID NOT GET MY MESSAGE OR SEE ME CALLING YOU???". My response would be....Ummmm...Why are you yelling...its not that serious....and I am sure you will hear...."Oh, its not that serious??" My response, Ummmmm...NO! "Kellwin, why do you think its not that serious??" "I am so glad you asked..because I have decided to give you the relationship you give me. You wait 24hrs to return my call...I thought that is how we were doing it...so, when you left that message..I did not see it as a priority because you have already set the precedent that I have 24hrs to return your call."
What I have learned is that people are not comfortable when you give them exactly what they give you. Most people cannot handle themselves or stand to be in a relationship with themselves. So, I ask them...WHY IN THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU CAN DO THAT TOO ME AND I AM OK WITH IT???? I live by the saying in the good book ...Treat me like you want to be treated...give me the relationship you want and I will definitely do the same. I will always give what is given and I have an open door policy so feel free to give me the relationship I give you.....(yea, I am equal opportunist...LOL)
Let me know your thoughts........k~
Are we only 50% when you got into a committed relationship with him/her? So, when they leave or you are not getting what you need in the relationship that will make you 100%.... you slide back down like a stripper on a pole to 50%.
We need to wake up and get ourselves together in order for us to start out at 100% (but, we will cover that in a future post). I suggest when we find ourselves in these type of relationships it is due to the fact that we are not giving what is given. Listed below you will find an examples (yes, I have more...) of what that means:
You leave a message for your significant other to return a call back to you at 3pm and when you hear from them it is 3pm the next day. Ummmmmm....NO! But, what we would do is beat that phone up(because we are only at 50%) knowing in this day in time....you have caller id even when you don't want it. Trust me when I say...they saw either when you called and hit ignore to send your 50% self to voicemail or that missed call. But, it is easier for us to beat that phone up than to just sit and give what is given.
There is another virtue called PATIENCE. Leave your message and find you something to do that does not allow you to constantly check your phone or stalk them via Verizon, Sprint, or AT&T. They will eventually call and you should push aside that 15% of yourself that you have left because by this time you are PISSED and learn how to use their actions to your advantage because they will be calling you in the future and leave a message (even if you have to hit the ignore button).
After the love of your life(LMAO), leave that message you do exactly what they did. You wait 24hrs and call them back just as chipper and happy avoiding the fact you got their message 24hrs ago, you saw all the calls. I guarantee it will spark....."YOU DID NOT GET MY MESSAGE OR SEE ME CALLING YOU???". My response would be....Ummmm...Why are you yelling...its not that serious....and I am sure you will hear...."Oh, its not that serious??" My response, Ummmmm...NO! "Kellwin, why do you think its not that serious??" "I am so glad you asked..because I have decided to give you the relationship you give me. You wait 24hrs to return my call...I thought that is how we were doing it...so, when you left that message..I did not see it as a priority because you have already set the precedent that I have 24hrs to return your call."
What I have learned is that people are not comfortable when you give them exactly what they give you. Most people cannot handle themselves or stand to be in a relationship with themselves. So, I ask them...WHY IN THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU CAN DO THAT TOO ME AND I AM OK WITH IT???? I live by the saying in the good book ...Treat me like you want to be treated...give me the relationship you want and I will definitely do the same. I will always give what is given and I have an open door policy so feel free to give me the relationship I give you.....(yea, I am equal opportunist...LOL)
Let me know your thoughts........k~
Labels: Relationship
posted by Kellwin at
6:06 PM
3 Comments:
So TRUE!!!!!!!!! The older :-) I get the more I forget the RULES!!!!!!!
GIVE what is GIVEN!
after last night i needed this :-0
Thanks for the comment! Do share....What happen last night? You may not feel comfortable giving all the intimate details...but, remember this is an open forum and no matter how dumb we may think we are....somebody else next to us is making the same stupid mistake in our relationship....LOL
Dr.Kellwin is in the house, and my co-pay is paid with a comment.
So here goes...my problem has been giving to much too soon,going with the notion "it's feels right" so go with it, well I always end up holding a bag of rocks he told me were diamonds, so I'll take this priceless word od Wisdom and "Give what is Given" (sighing)
Thanks Doc
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